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There are thousands of small decisions that need to be made when planning your wedding! Many even before you start planning yourself or contacting wedding planners. By sitting down and preparing the answers to as many of these questions as you can, you will save yourself time and possible arguments between you and your spouse to be. Don’t treat it like a test, that will just stress both of you out. Sit down casually together, preferably when neither of you are overtired. Make a date night out of it, or even pop open a bottle of wine at home. Go over these 30 wedding planning questions to set you up with the first steps to planning your wedding!

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1. What is your wedding budget? How much do you want to spend? How much are you willing to spend to get the wedding of your dreams?

2. How will you pay for the wedding? Can you finance it yourselves? Do you need to ask for financial help from a family member, or take out a loan? If yes, how much and from whom or where? 

3. When do you want to get married? Perhaps you have a favourite season, or a special date that you would like to say your ‘I do’s’ on. Ideally have a rough idea of day, month or at the very least a season to narrow it down when it comes to searching for a wedding venue. The theme or style of your wedding can be a big factor in deciding the season. If you are in love with all things winter wonderland, it makes no sense choosing a spring-time wedding!

4. How many guests would you like to invite and how many guests do you expect to come? If you have a preferred venue, check their capacity before you come up with a final number that may not fit into your event space.

5. Are you going to have the wedding in your own country or a destination wedding? A destination wedding will be ideal if you are dreaming of escaping a cold climate to get married in the sun or you can imagine setting your wedding scene in your favourite country from your travels together! 

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Santorini Wedding Destination

6. Do you have a wedding venue in mind? You may be surprised to find out that one or both of you have a preferred wedding venue, especially if having a wedding or getting married has not been the topic of conversation before. 

When contacting wedding venues, here are the top questions you need to ask them!

7. Do you have an alternative venue if  your first choice is not available? Are you willing to compromise on price or travel distance if a Plan B needs to be made?

8. What style of wedding venue would you like? There are so many styles to choose from. Do you want an indoor or outdoor venue for your wedding ceremony and reception or a combination of both?

If you are considering getting married in Hungary it has a vast variety of venue styles; from romantic vineyards and castles, to elegant hotel rooftops, industrial lofts and art galleries to rustic barns and ruin pubs. Should your wedding location not provide such a diverse choice, you can always transform an event space with the right florals and decor to create any style you desire . 

Amber Bride by Sorg Villa, Rustic wedding venue in Hungary
Wedding venue in Hungary, Amber Bride by Sorg Villa | Venue: @amberbride | Tables: @satorkolcsonzo | Chairs: @dresstheday_weddinghire | Photo: @tamibabinsky.photography | Decor: @whitebirddecor

9. Will you plan the wedding yourselves or hire a wedding planner/wedding coordinator? If you choose a destination wedding I would highly recommend hiring a wedding planner! Don’t rely on the event coordinator at your chosen venue to deal with all the details. The chances are they won’t! You may also be handed off to other on-site event coordinators throughout the process. If you hire a wedding planner, he/she will start the process with you and guide you all the way through until the end. If you are planning a wedding close to home then it can be a great benefit to pass on the wedding planning duties to a wedding coordinator in the final weeks. It will make for a much more enjoyable day for you both!

10. How involved do you want to be in the planning process? I’ve noticed that the grooms are getting more involved these days but perhaps due to hectic work schedules and other life commitments it may not be possible for you to be equally involved. Come up with a plan that best suits your personalities and your time.

11. What type of ceremony would you like? If religious, what religion? You could have to compromise if you are of different religions or beliefs! It may be an option to agree to an interfaith marriage, whereby a professional officiant creates a customised ceremony to honour each of your faiths.

12. Do you want the ceremony outdoors? If you belong to a certain religion this may not be possible, as they can have strict rules and will only allow the exchange of vows and the ceremony in the house of worship. Also consider the climate and preparing a Plan B if the weather interrupts your outdoor ceremony plans.

13. Will you write our own vows ( if permitted ) or stick with a classic vow script?

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Hand Written Vows | Photo: @pinewoodwedding

14. Do you know who you want to officiate the wedding? Perhaps a family member or mutual friend is a justice of the peace, minister or priest.

15. Who will be your witnesses? In most cases you will need 1 each! Requirements may differ between countries, however if you are considering getting married in Hungary, each witness must provide an identification card ( Passport  if a foreign national or a Hungarian I.D card if they are a Hungarian national).

16. What aspect of the day is most important to you? Will it be the venue, ceremony atmosphere, the decor and flowers, the entertainment, the guest experience or the food? Undoubtedly each of these aspects will be of importance to some degree. However, by listing each from most important to least important it will better help you prioritise and determine your budget!

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17. Will you purchase wedding insurance? It’s always advisable to be covered by insurance, whether it’s a backyard wedding or a premium wedding venue. Make sure you read the small print!

18. Are you willing to cancel or postpone if a global pandemic such as Covid-19 should affect our wedding? 

19. Do you want a bridal party? If yes, how many bridesmaids, groomsmen and flower girls/paige boys? Will we purchase their bridal attire?

20. What style of decor or wedding theme do you want? The word ‘wedding theme’ can seem intimidating, however a theme can be as simple as a colour. Just think of a colour(s) that you gravitate towards or your favourite flower and Pinterest or Instagram will soon have you overloaded with ideas!

21. Do you want many flowers? Is there any element that you want to highlight or to really stand out with our wedding flowers? Perhaps you have always imagined your aisle to be lined with flowers, your church door to be covered in a wedding floral arch, a staircase to be draped in florals or your dining table centrepieces to steal the show! 

 
Brody Studios, Emphasizing the Wedding doors and entrance with florals in this rustic venue Budapest
Brody Studios Budapest | photo: @pinewoodweddings

22. Do you want children at your wedding? This is your personal choice and remember it doesn’t have to be an all or nothing situation. Perhaps you have a select number of children like nieces, nephews, or children of your best friends that you would like to be present.  If you want a child-free wedding you should be clear about that from the outset. Include the info in your save the date, wedding website or say it personally so that there is no confusion.

23. Do you want a one day event or to spread it out over a few days with a welcome and/or farewell event? Will you invite everyone to each event or just a select few?

24. Are you going set up any activities for your guests, if you have a destination wedding abroad?

25. Do you have any guests that are disabled or have poor mobility? You will need to ensure that your venue is accommodating for them, from elevators to lavatories!

26. Do you want a wedding photographer or videographer? If yes, what style of photography and videographer do you want?

27. Will you do a first look? If you are not sure, check out the advantages and disadvantages here!

28. Do you want entertainment? If yes, what type of entertainment and during which parts of the day? Think about each event of the day, and what type of atmosphere you wish to create. Could your guests experience be enhanced with some background music as they arrive to your ceremony location? Some couples hire a Master of Ceremonies to ensure the flow of the atmosphere throughout the day. A designated voice that will make all necessary announcements such as introductions, letting guests know what is happening next and more!

29. What type of reception would you like? A Wedding Breakfast or Brunch, Lunch, Afternoon Tea, Dinner, Cocktail Reception, or a combination. Would you like plated service or buffet? Go with what suits your style and personality!

30. Are you going to create a wedding registry? If yes, from where and will you choose the items together? Do you want/need gifts at all? Should you ask for money in lieu of gifts? Or should you ask guests to donate to our favourite charity?

Finally it’s always a good idea to ask each other when the hard decisions need to be made, ‘how to best communicate with each other if either of you are feeling overwhelmed?’. Don’t let the planning take over your lives, ensure you have the time to plan it in a relaxed manor if possible and decide when are the occasions that ‘wedding talk’ should be avoided!

Once you have the majority of these important wedding planning questions answered, you will be all set to get your wedding plans in motion! Set the date, book your wedding venue and get down to all the fun design elements, not to mention the most enjoyable part for brides – wedding dress shopping!

Have a wonderful wedding planning experience!

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If you are considering having your destination wedding in Hungary, get in touch. I can assist you in every aspect of the planning process and be involved as little or as much as you like. The following wedding packages are available for Budapest weddings:

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To do a first look or not, that is the question! As a wedding planner it is my job to ask all the questions to ensure nothing gets forgotten and that the wedding timeline gets executed accordingly. One of the many questions I ask couples is “Do you wish to do a ‘First Look’?”. Sometimes they know for sure if they want it or not, and others have no idea what I am talking about! It’s a major factor in the timeline and should be decided upon early in the planning process, before finalising your ceremony and dinner reception times.

Tradition vs First Look

Traditionally the couple do not see each other before the ceremony! The groom’s first look at his bride is when she walks down the aisle, just like the photo below of a wedding in Budapest at Saint Stephen’s Basilica! Some even think it’s bad luck for the couple to see each other before the ceremony. 

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Traditional First Look in Saint Stephen’s Basilica, Budapest | Eskuvoi Fotosom

I totally get why brides choose the traditional option, I did, and I have no regrets. My husband teared up when he saw me enter the doors of Saint Stephen’s Basilica at our wedding in Budapest. He sent a ripple effect of tears through the congregation and I’ve been told even amongst the tourists in the back wings!

It’s also tradition that after the ceremony the official photos are taken. This is often at a unique location where just the two of them escape to with their photographers and videographers. It’s a chance to have some private time together. I personally enjoyed having our time away during our wedding portraits. It was our chance to celebrate, we sipped champagne in the limo and the smiles for our photographs came naturally as we were so delighted to be officially married and relieved too that the ceremony had gone according to plan.

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Create a fun First Look with your dog! | Iryna’s Photography

What is a first look?

A first look is a planned moment before the ceremony where the couple get to see each other without their guests. It’s usually an intimate moment in a secluded setting that will be captured by the wedding photographers and videographers.  

I have witnessed first looks and some amazing photos afterwards, that prove it has its appeal. If you are on the fence and undecided which way to go, I have compiled a list of pros and cons with some epic first look photos to inspire you!

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Tears of Joy | Miranda Anderson Photography

Why do a first look? 

The Pros:

Your makeup and hair will be freshly done and looking perfect for your photos! It’s easy to get it messed up a little if you wait until after the ceremony. Your guests will undoubtedly want to give you kisses and hugs to congratulate you. That’s bound to leave you with a couple of hairs out of place and lipstick traces both on you and your groom! Your bouquet will also be looking its best!!

You can schedule all the wedding party photos before the ceremony, so afterwards the only formal images left to take are family photos. 

You’ll be able to enjoy your cocktail hour with your guests and have some time to chat with family and friends. That can be difficult to do later in the evening, especially if you are planning a formal sit down dinner.

The first look is a great opportunity to give your dress a trial run before all eyes are on you at the ceremony. Unless you have taken part in beauty pageants or are a fashion model you have probably never worn a dress anything similar in shape to your wedding dress. More than likely you will hide the dress from your fiancé from the time you collect it from the bridal salon, you may not get an opportunity to try it on again until the wedding day! Having that extra time in your wedding dress for the first look can be  especially beneficial if your dress has a long train or veil. You may discover that it’s a bit more cumbersome to move in than you expected. If you are finding that anything is uncomfortable or you would like your train or veil to hang a certain way, then you can let your bridesmaids know how you would like it positioned when you walk, sit, stand and knee in it!

You won’t not have to worry about the sun going down for your photos. It could work out to your advantage having a first look, especially if your wedding is in the winter months and you are planning outdoor photos. The short days mean the sun can be down as early as 4pm, depending on where you live.

By having a first look you can calm those pre-ceremony nerves. The ceremony is by far the most nerve wracking part of the day! All that build up to seeing each other for the first time can leave you with butterflies in your stomach that may not subside until much later in the day. Some brides and grooms have admitted they don’t remember much of the ceremony as they were so riddled with nerves.

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Delight in Connemara, Ireland | Aoife Herriott Photography

Why not to do a First Look!

The Cons:

A bride may not get the reaction she was looking for. Some grooms may feel the need to have a big reaction especially when there is a photographer ready on the sidelines. If he is the type to keep his emotions bundled up (and unfortunately a lot of guys do), then the bride could be left a bit disappointed!

It’s not completely private. Like I mentioned above your photographer(s) will be present plus your videographer(s) and at the very least your maid of honor and/or wedding planner, to be on hand if you should need anything!

You will have to get up earlier! If you are like me and enjoy your sleep then the first look may not be for you. It means you will have to start your beauty prep earlier to be ready well in advance of the ceremony. You don’t want to have puffy eyes from lack of sleep on your big day!

You’re family and friends will not get to witness your initial reactions to seeing each other for the first time!

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Greg Finck Photography

Now you have all the major pros and cons of doing a first look. Hopefully they will help make your decision a bit easier. Whichever you choose, enjoy it and take the moment in!

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Shopping for your wedding dress is one of the most exciting parts of wedding planning. Can you picture how your wedding dress will look? Have you imagined it since you were a little girl? Maybe you’ve watched every episode of ‘Say Yes To The Dress’ or even started looking for your wedding dress before you got engaged? Or perhaps, like me, you thought you would never get married, so you never had wedding dress dreams.

While dreaming about your dress is a great starting point, the reality is that wedding dress shopping can be rather overwhelming. However this guide will help you prepare and stay calm on your quest to find the perfect dress.

 

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Photo courtesy of Diora Salon Budapest

 

DO YOUR RESEARCH IN ADVANCE

As the saying goes, fail to prepare and prepare to fail!

– Do your research by checking out bridal magazines.
– Sift through real brides on social media platforms like Instagram and Pinterest.
– Create a Pinterest board with all your favourite looks.
– Watch bridal fashion shows online.
– Take screenshots of styles you would like to try.

Make notes of elements you like or don’t like. Go directly to the boutiques websites to look through their galleries, then call to check if they stock your favourite styles or designer gowns.

 

Wedding dress shopping notes on Ipad

 

DON’T MAKE MORE THAN ONE APPOINTMENT PER DAY

Wedding dress shopping will be fun a experience but it can be very exhausting. It’s on another level to your usual high street shopping or mall visit. Imagine trying on 10 dresses per salon and multiplying that by each salon you visit? You are sure to get confused and forget how you really felt in your favourites. Limit yourself to one bridal store per day and make notes as soon as you can after your appointment, jotting down names or codes of your favourites. You may forget these things in the midst of trying on loads of dresses, so it’s always good to have a list of the wedding dress pros and cons to refer to as well as price and how it made you feel! Give yourself time to go home and really think about the choices you saw.

 

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Photo courtesy of Runaway Bride Ireland

 

DO TRY ON MULTIPLE STYLES

Sometimes it is the unexpected one that will end up surprising you. If you are not sure about a certain silhouette, fabric or embellishment, try it on anyhow! This is necessary until you find the one that will create your desired statement. Even if you don’t have an idea of style, trial and error is all part of the process to discovering what dress will make you feel like a goddess. Whether it be a strapless sheath, a ball gown or a mermaid fit to show off your curves, be it dramatic or understated, you won’t know it’s the one until you try it.

‘How many wedding dresses should I try?’ you may ask! The answer to that is really up to you, but I believe as many as it takes to find the perfect one. Follow your gut instincts!

 

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Photo Ashlee Mintz courtesy of Jennifer’s Bridal

 

DON’T WEAR THE WRONG UNDERWEAR

I’ve had brides ask me in the past ‘What do I wear to a wedding dress appointment?’ Firstly well fitting underwear is very important to make you feel good about yourself. To get the full effect of the dress, wear a good multiway bra or at least a strapless one and seamless, form fitting undies preferably skin toned. The correct undergarments can make the difference between a wedding dress fitting well and one fitting perfectly. It will also  let you focus on the details of the dress instead of your underwear showing through!

Try to wear comfortable, hassle-free clothing that’s free from awkward zips or buttons and easy to remove! 

 

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Photo courtesy of Runaway Bride Ireland

 

DO TRY TO BRING YOUR WEDDING SHOES

Try to have your wedding shoes purchased in advance, if not, bring a shoe with your preferred heel height. This is important for the seamstress so she can accurately pin the hem of the dress and show you how it will look once it will be altered to your desired length.

 

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Photo courtesy of Harriet Wilde Shoes London

 

DON’T BRING A BIG ENTOURAGE

Another question I get asked by brides is ‘ Who to bring to a wedding dress appointment?’ If you are a confident shopper who always makes good decisions and you know your style, then by all means go alone. There is no harm or shame in it! You will end up saving time and possibly money by  not making decisions you regret later. Listening to the opinion of others can leave you feeling overwhelmed and unable to figure out what you want yourself!

You can always take your Mum and bridesmaids along to the first fitting or bring them back for a second try on before making the final decision. However if you are more comfortable having a second opinion then only bring somebody along that you trust, who knows your personal style and who’s opinion you value.

 

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Photo courtesy of Ivy Road Photography

 

DO HAVE A BUDGET IN MIND

This may be one of the first major down payments you make for your wedding. Don’t shock your groom with the news that you have blown the majority of the budget on your gown. Have a budget and stick to it. If you try on dresses that you can’t afford you are just setting yourself up for failure. It’s possible you will end up loving the dress you can’t have!

In addition to the price of the gown you should also calculate the cost of alterations. These are considerably more than your average day dress due the delicacy and detail of wedding dresses. Enquire with the seamstress once you know what alterations are required and ask for an estimate for alteration costs.

 

 

DON’T FORGET ABOUT ACCESSORIES

Accessories can change everything! Maybe you need just a little embellished belt to finish the look. If you feel right in the dress but feel there is something missing ask your bridal consultant for a veil to try on. A veil can really seal the deal and it can be quite an emotional moment.

Give your shopping companion the task of keeping an eye out for accessories. They can snap some photos of prospective pieces so you can look back and choose from them once you have found your dress. It will save you time and energy rather than going around the bridal stores again looking specifically for a veil, tiara etc. and leave focused on finding your wedding dress!

 

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Photo Courtesy of Made With Love Bridal

 

DO TEST THE DRESS FOR COMFORT AND FLEXIBILITY 

Move around as much as you can in the dress. Walk around and keep it on for as long as your appointment allows. A dress that may seem light at first may seem rather heavy and awkward after wearing it for a length of time. If there are sleeves, then raise your arms. Try sitting in the dress and if kneeling is a requirement for your ceremony, then go ahead and do it if the shop assistant allows. More than likely you will need to be able to dance freely in it too, so consider moves that will be in your first dance as bride and groom. You want to ease through your first dance especially and not be worried about tripping up or it catching your heel in your dress.

Also consider the season you are getting married in! Will your dress have you break out in a sweat? Or will you end up covering up the most beautiful details of your dress with a coat or cape due to chilling temperatures.

You have to feel stunning not just walking down the aisle and posing for photos but also moving around in it, dancing and wearing it continuously for possibly 12 hours or more.

 

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Photo courtesy of Made With Love Bridal

 

DON’T GIVE INTO PRESSURE

Don’t let the bridal consultant, sales assistant or any of your entourage pressure you into making a decision. If it’s the tenth salon you have visited then your girlfriends may just be wishing you to finally make a decision. A sales assistant may be trying to persuade you into a dress so that she can make her monthly sales quota. Listen to your gut feelings, not someone else’s opinion. You have to feel completely happy with your decision. Unless you are planning a change of dress at your wedding, you will be in it all day. Maybe it will take trying on a few more dresses to convince that it is the one or not.

 

DO GET A SAMPLE OF THE FABRIC

Remembering the exact shade of your wedding dress will be difficult as it can be 6 months or more between the time of your first wedding dress appointment and your first fitting. Even if you take a photo it won’t reveal the true shade as the bridal store lighting will affect it. The only true way of remembering it is with a fabric swatch! 

If you are planning on getting accessories like a veil then it’s a good idea to have a sample of your dress fabric to match up the colours. Likewise when shopping for your bridesmaids dresses and your partners attire, a fabric swatch on hand will ensure their clothing colour compliments yours.

 

Jaton couture wedding gown with decorative lace appliqué bodice
Photo courtesy of Ivy Road Photography

 

DON’T RUSH YOUR DECISION

Unless you are on a flying visit abroad to a boutique, there is no need to make a rush decision about your dress. Even if you do, they should be able to accommodate you through the phone, by answering any queries you may have and accepting the deposit with your credit cards details. It’s always best to sleep on it for at least one night. If you are still in love with the dress the next day, call the salon and give them all the details they need.

If you can’t find your dress, don’t panic! Take a break from the search if you aren’t under any major time constraints! You know how they say ”you’ll find ‘the one’ (husband/wife) when you stop looking!’, well the same can be said for your wedding dress! Focus on some other wedding details for a while and you may just find your dress when you least expect it!

 

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DO RELAX AND ENJOY THE PROCESS

Finally, try to approach the process in a relaxed manner, avoid being stressed out, hungry or overtired. These issues can really affect your mood and hinder the choice you make. Enjoy this epic, once in a lifetime shopping experience!

 

Wedding dress shopping list:

  • DO your research in advance
  • DON’T make more than one appointment per day
  • DO try on multiple styles
  • DON’T wear the wrong underwear
  • DO try to bring your wedding shoes
  • DON’T Bring a big entourage
  • DO have a budget in mind
  • DON’T forget about accessories
  • DO test the dress for comfort and flexibility
  • DON’T give into pressure
  • DO get a sample of fabric
  • DON’T rush your decision
  • DO relax and enjoy the process

Now you are all set with your list of wedding dress shopping do’s and don’ts.

 

HAPPY SHOPPING!

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